Date 5: The Friend Test – do they approve or not?

So, I got back from my trip to Phoenix – which was awesome and I will blog about but figured I should continue with the Rental Car guy story since people keep asking about it – and was looking forward to date #5 the following weekend (as long as I didn’t have to work). Rental Car guy had mentioned going out with his friends to a charity event for The Chive on St Patty’s Day weekend so we decided that we would do that Saturday night. As the week progressed, we thought about spending Saturday afternoon together at his house watching movies and relaxing before his friends got there which I thought was a great idea since I was super nervous about meeting them…and [hopefully] getting their approval.

My little brother called me towards the end of the week and said he was in Oregon and wanted to drive up and spend the weekend together. I was so excited because my new landlords were (and still are) so amazing and told me that my brother and his adorable dog Scoobs could stay at my place – so he ventured up this way!

Saturday rolls around and my nerves are going non-stop…I mean, I had the friend test coming up that night! I was due to be at Rental Car guys house at 3:30 and my little brother called me around 2 to tell me he would be to my house around 5. He knew I had prior plans and told me to go ahead with those and he and Scoobs would let themselves in and just relax. I gave him info to get in the house and thought everything would be okay.

I got to Rental Car guys house around 4 and within about 30 minutes my little brother had called and was having trouble getting in the house. I tried to walk him through it but we couldn’t get it to work. I told Rental Car guy that I was going to run home and let him in – he offered to come with me – so, you guessed it – he met my little brother. They clicked right away which was a relief for me. Rental Car guy and I were going to grab dinner on the way back to his house but he was sweet and asked if my brother wanted to go with us. Guess where we went? Rikki Rikki for sushi and a stroll down memory lane from our second date. My little brother and Rental Car guy talked the entire time which made me so happy! After dinner, we headed back over to his house and waited for his friends.

His friends showed up and they were so sweet and welcomed me with open arms and big hugs. We had a drink and then headed out. When we got where we going a few of us looked at each other like we don’t belong there but decided to go and have fun since one of the people was really looking forward to it. We stayed for about an hour or so and then decided to take the party to his friend’s house. We stopped by Rental Car guys house, grabbed our overnight bags, shared our first kiss (exactly a month from when we met) and headed to his friend’s house. We all stayed up talking, drinking, and enjoying each others company until about 2 or 3am…which was way too late for me!

We woke up around 9 and laid in bed talking. His friend sent him a text around 10 to see if we were awake and still wanted to go to brunch. We sent my little brother a text to make sure he still wanted to go and we all got up and ready to head to brunch at my Sunday brunch spot, Stricker’s. I was worried they would’t like it since it is a little hole in the wall place but everyone seemed to enjoy the food and each others company. We talked about all kinds of things – Rental Car guy even asked if any of them wanted to join in our baseball stadium trips we had talked about. After lunch, I went back to get my car and headed home so my little brother and I could venture out and see Seattle (will blog about that one too).

Sounds like everything was great – right? Well, he went on a stay-cation and spent Wednesday-Thursday at his friend’s house for their annual March Madness hang-out time/drinkfest. I didn’t get my morning messages – in fact, I didn’t get many text messages that week. The few I did get seemed to be meant for someone else – as if they were in the middle of a conversation. I figured it was because he was with his buddies that I didn’t hear from him but that trend didn’t seem to change when he was “back to reality”. I figured since we had not seen each other in two weeks that he would be excited to see me – but he wasn’t. I got the hint – either he wasn’t interested, his friends didn’t approve of me, or he met someone else. I sent him a text letting him know it is okay to be honest with me and I could tell things were different. He just associated it with us not seeing each other for a while.

As the weeks went on, I just figured it was over and had started to move on (and go on other dates – which I will blog about) and then what does he do? Sends a text message telling me that he was sorry he hadn’t gotten back to me in a while but that he was doing some thinking and observing and wasn’t sure what he thought at the moment. I told him take all the time he needed and that he could come pick up his jacket (I was nice and got  it fixed at the dry cleaners when I took my pants) and a shirt I had gotten him as gift on his way home from work one day – which I still have. He will send a text message every now and again but then takes hours to respond. Let’s be real – he doesn’t want to be friends – he just wants to make sure he gets his jacket and shirt. I am looking forward to getting rid of his things and completely deleting him from my life. I thought things were promising with this guy but he has turned out like every other guy I have met. If he doesn’t come get his stuff this weekend is it wrong of me to just drop it on his door step?

I know this little “love” story didn’t end like we thought it would but better things are in store. My life has changed in the last few weeks and I am glad to be leaving that chapter behind and starting a new one with all blank pages. Say good-bye to Rental Car guy!

The first picture Rental Car guy sent me...and the only one I have.

The first picture Rental Car guy sent me…and the only one I have.

Until next time…xoxo…Julie


Date #4…a flyby before I flew out!

Wow…feels so weird to say date #4! That is truly a record! After the last date, I was beyond smitten and definitely developing feelings. I looked forward to my random morning messages from him and the other ones throughout the day. Not only was I super happy with where things were going with Rental Car guy – I was also excited for my weekend trip to Phoenix to see Leana and celebrate Phi Mu Founder’s Day. **Note: I will be blogging about that greatness soon.**

Rental Car guy and I talked everyday that week and multiple times a day. We were sad we wouldn’t get to see each other that weekend – I was going to be out of town and he was golfing with a co-worker and his manager. I already thought he was a sweetheart and then he goes even more above and beyond to try to and see me before my trip. While we were talking that day, he asked what time my flight was and what time I would be getting to the airport. A few minutes later, I got a text messages from him saying he would meet me for a drink at one of the pre-TSA spots, Vintage Washington Wine Bar, at the airport. It is not some glamorous place – but it was with fabulous company and that’s all the matters.

I thought it was so sweet that he was willing to come over from the Rental Car Center and deal with the airport just to see me for an hour before I left…so I threw on something a step up from jeans and t-shirt and even put on make-up. I was super excited to get to the airport and see him! The butterflies in my stomach for seeing him took over the nerves I get when they have to weigh my bag which was awesome!

I got there, put my suitcase down, gave him a big hug and then sat down across from him and just smiled. I didn’t notice all the chaos of the airport the entire time I sat there with him…it felt like just us. The time flew by and our quick date #4 had to come to an end. He gave me a big bear hug and told me to let him know when I got there so he knew I was safe.

I got on the flight with the biggest grin on my face and knew that the trip was going to be awesome because I was going to see Leana and it had started out so amazing with my little date before flying out.

Big weekend blog coming soon. Until next time…xoxo…Julie

Date # 3: Cuban food and a look into his life

Alright…I made it to week and date #3…which is 3 more than I usually get 🙂 Leading up to the date was interesting…let me fill you in…and the picture painting begins…

I work with all guys (there is 1 other female in my area) so I get a lot of advice/input from guys. I don’t talk to many people about my personal life but I have become close to one of my co-workers (he is like my girlfriend now since all of my girlfriends disappeared and unfriended – literally – when I started working second shift) and he kept telling me I had been friend-zoned. Because of that, I kept my options opened and didn’t put all of my eggs in one basket. So, Rental Car guy and I kept texting throughout the week and since I work nights and he had plans already with friends on Saturday – we decided on dinner on Sunday.

Although I was smitten with Rental Car guy, I decided to keep my options open and go on a date with Lawyer Boy (it sounds better than guy). Throughout the emails with Lawyer Boy, I got the feeling I didn’t want to meet (because I knew it would go nowhere) but I figured, what the heck – I can try a new breakfast place in Seattle and pick up flowers at the market afterwards. So, Lawyer Boy and I had brunch on Sunday – the morning of the same day I was seeing Rental Car guy. As I expected, he is one of those people who lives in Seattle, works in Seattle, and never leaves Seattle. When I got there, I was immediately not physically attracted to the guy but thought, just maybe, we could have good conversation and be friends. How wrong I was! It was the most painful and awkward meal! His voice was terrible, he complained about everything being too thick – the bacon, the pancakes, the orange juice – was all too thick. I knew the orange juice was because he left specks of pulp on his beard! That wasn’t even the worst part…he asked the waitress to box up MY food so he could bring it home! I am sure I didn’t give him a fair chance because I thought about Rental Car guy the entire time…I mean, how can a guy give you butterflies when you aren’t even with him?

After the worst date possibly ever (yeah, even Mr Microsoft wasn’t this bad), I decided to go home and take a nap. I woke up and looked in the mirror and wanted to cancel. My make-up had worn off (I could freshen that) and my hair was flat on one side and a fro on the other (thanks curly hair). I also had some blemishes that were impossible to hide. We didn’t hide anything from each other and always said what we were thinking, so like always, I sent him a text telling him I wanted to cancel because I looked terrible but I really wanted to see him. He told me that it was a no judgment zone and he was sure I looked pretty and to come on over. He always made me feel so comfortable, so I figured, what the heck – if he doesn’t like my imperfections, then better to find out now.

I told him to pick a place near his house for dinner since the first two dates he came over near my place – you know, try to let him know I was interested. He picked a little hole in the wall the cuban restaurant, Mojito. The food was delicious and the conversation was, once again, wonderful and easy-flowing. After dinner, we headed back to his place so he could go to bed and I could get my car. We both live in mother-in-law units and I asked how his was set up (example, share an entrance, have a connecting door, etc.) and he asked if I wanted to come in and see. Of course, I said yes – I am curious like that. He showed me his place and we sat and talked for about an hour. We were both getting tired and he needed to go bed so we started to say good-night. Before that though, I embarrassed myself again and blurted out something stupid like I did on the first date. I asked in the most awkward way, “So, are we going to see each other again?” I know it seems like a simple question but my facial expression screamed, “Please say yes! I hope you say yes! I don’t know for sure you will 100% say yes.” Of course, he said we would see each other again. He walked me to my car, gave me a hug, a small kiss on the cheek and told me let him know I made it home (such a gentleman move that most guys forget about these days). I smiled the entire way home and couldn’t wait to see him again. I know, without a doubt, it was that day that I developed feelings of more than just friends with him – and that scared me!

Until date #4 and next time…xoxo…Julie