Out with the old…in with the new!

“Sometimes your circle decreases in size but increases in value.”

The last few years have brought new people into my life…some of them are still in it and some are not. Someone once told me that “when someone no long enriches your life and you no longer enrich theirs, it is time to seal the memories in the very back of your mind and make no more with them”. It did not make sense when they first told me but over the years, I am beginning to understand. I also realize that people come into your life for a reason and leave for a reason. Sometimes we spend so much energy trying to keep someone around because we have spent time investing in them; however, letting go is okay because “sometimes you just outgrow people.”

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I have spent quite a bit of time reading about ways to improve life (not because I didn’t think mine was great) and the thing that really resonated with me was clearing the negative to make room for the positive. I truly believe that is what has happened the last few years with friendships running their course.

I have met some amazing people and had to find time to spend with them which was difficult when I was spending time with other people who didn’t enrich my life. Since I have started spending time with new people, I have found that my life is filled with a joy and happiness I had lost for a while. I am around people now who do not judge me or make me feel like I can’t be the goofy person that I am. I have laughed more, I have genuinely smiled more, I have loved more, and I have wanted to be around people more than ever (which is HUGE for an introvert). Now that I am truly happy again, I find that people are wanting to spend time with me and that I am surrounded by only people who enrich my life. The biggest thing, I have time to give to others in need and do it quite often. It is nice to be surrounded by people who do the same.

It is never easy ending a friendship but gaining multiple amazing people in your life makes it okay. As I think about the people I have fed, clothed, and simply gave something to so they could give a family member a Christmas gift, I am reminded that I am an amazing person with an amazing life – with or without the same people in it.

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I hope that your life is full of enriching people and you find the happiness that makes you smile, laugh, and love more than ever before!

Until next time…xoxo…Julie

Send my love to your new lover…

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Yep – so true!

Thank you Adele for song #2 on the new album and for giving me a good tag line for my follow-up to Mr Anonymous that was introduced a few months back. I have had quite a few people ask me “whatever happened to the guy you were seeing” and I never really knew what to say because it wasn’t so good…and I didn’t want to be rude (which is weird because I normally have no problem shaming the guy but this time was different). But then, it happened. I got the new Adele CD and song #2 came on and BAM! Like that, I had a story – it just happened to be written and sung by someone else with a much better voice! It goes a little like this: “Send my love to your new lover – treat her better”…you catching on yet?

For those of you a little slower than others, let me help paint the picture. Mr Anonymous and I had were spending a lot of time together – weekend activities, changed clothes at his house before softball, dinner a few nights a week, etc and then our schedules “got busy”. I took a quick, overnight trip to the beach (or what Washington calls the beach) with my friend…

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Aren’t we pretty?

The weather was windy, rainy, and cold so we spent some time relaxing, talking, and enjoying a nice dinner (minus the weirdo/rude host). Some of our conversations got me thinking about Mr Anonymous and how it was time to talk about what we were (I think by month 4 you should know if you want to date or not and being friends is an option in my book). Since we had no cell service where we were, I typed up a text with some thoughts about things, how I felt, and what I wanted. I had no intention of sending it – you know, like writing your feelings but never sending the letter. The only problem was that when we got back to town and had cell service, the text sent – yeah, I am not that tech savvy! I figured, no big deal, things happen for reason and this will be the “official start” to something great! Well, you know what he wrote back? You hear the crickets chirping…yeah, me too! He wrote NOTHING!

The only thing he said to me (in person) is that he got my text and didn’t respond because he didn’t know what to say but we would talk about it at some point. As time went on, I figured he would say something but he didn’t – not in words at least…but his actions – they spoke volumes! He stopped texting and asking to hang out. He distanced himself from me…but cozied up to someone else (who might I add, has a live in boyfriend). Being the introvert that I am, I noticed things and could see they had something going on. When groups of us would get together, she all of the sudden started coming (she never did before). She would stand guard near him and not let me near. I still see them from time to time (we have some of the same friends) and I am totally okay with things. I have realized that if he is interested in this particular girl – then I am too good for him! I also realize that if he is into dating (or hooking up) with someone who has a live in boyfriend, then he is not good enough for me!

If there is one thing I have realized in this, it is – I am not the problem here and I did nothing wrong! I am a strong, hard-working, independent woman that needs and deserves an honest, loyal, one woman kind of girl MAN! If you have not listened to Adele’s new CD, I highly recommend you do. Her voice is amazing and she really has some good songs!

To Mr Anonymous…in the words of Adele…say hello to your new lover – treat he better!

They always say when you get rid of one negative thing in life, it opens up two positive places…with that being said, life has been on the up and up lately and I can hardly wait to fill you in on things but I have to get to bed for now…

Until next time…xoxo…Julie