Thank you Adele for song #2 on the new album and for giving me a good tag line for my follow-up to Mr Anonymous that was introduced a few months back. I have had quite a few people ask me “whatever happened to the guy you were seeing” and I never really knew what to say because it wasn’t so good…and I didn’t want to be rude (which is weird because I normally have no problem shaming the guy but this time was different). But then, it happened. I got the new Adele CD and song #2 came on and BAM! Like that, I had a story – it just happened to be written and sung by someone else with a much better voice! It goes a little like this: “Send my love to your new lover – treat her better”…you catching on yet?
For those of you a little slower than others, let me help paint the picture. Mr Anonymous and I had were spending a lot of time together – weekend activities, changed clothes at his house before softball, dinner a few nights a week, etc and then our schedules “got busy”. I took a quick, overnight trip to the beach (or what Washington calls the beach) with my friend…
The weather was windy, rainy, and cold so we spent some time relaxing, talking, and enjoying a nice dinner (minus the weirdo/rude host). Some of our conversations got me thinking about Mr Anonymous and how it was time to talk about what we were (I think by month 4 you should know if you want to date or not and being friends is an option in my book). Since we had no cell service where we were, I typed up a text with some thoughts about things, how I felt, and what I wanted. I had no intention of sending it – you know, like writing your feelings but never sending the letter. The only problem was that when we got back to town and had cell service, the text sent – yeah, I am not that tech savvy! I figured, no big deal, things happen for reason and this will be the “official start” to something great! Well, you know what he wrote back? You hear the crickets chirping…yeah, me too! He wrote NOTHING!
The only thing he said to me (in person) is that he got my text and didn’t respond because he didn’t know what to say but we would talk about it at some point. As time went on, I figured he would say something but he didn’t – not in words at least…but his actions – they spoke volumes! He stopped texting and asking to hang out. He distanced himself from me…but cozied up to someone else (who might I add, has a live in boyfriend). Being the introvert that I am, I noticed things and could see they had something going on. When groups of us would get together, she all of the sudden started coming (she never did before). She would stand guard near him and not let me near. I still see them from time to time (we have some of the same friends) and I am totally okay with things. I have realized that if he is interested in this particular girl – then I am too good for him! I also realize that if he is into dating (or hooking up) with someone who has a live in boyfriend, then he is not good enough for me!
If there is one thing I have realized in this, it is – I am not the problem here and I did nothing wrong! I am a strong, hard-working, independent woman that needs and deserves an honest, loyal, one woman kind of girl MAN! If you have not listened to Adele’s new CD, I highly recommend you do. Her voice is amazing and she really has some good songs!
To Mr Anonymous…in the words of Adele…say hello to your new lover – treat he better!
They always say when you get rid of one negative thing in life, it opens up two positive places…with that being said, life has been on the up and up lately and I can hardly wait to fill you in on things but I have to get to bed for now…
Until next time…xoxo…Julie